A dysfunctional family knows the cardinal rules

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The First Commandment:
Thou shalt reinterpret reality to preserve the perfect fantasy.

 

The Second Commandment:
Thou shalt always send mixed messages, especially when it concerns relationships.

 

The Third Commandment:
Thou shalt be an adult.

 

The Fourth Commandment:
Thou shalt keep secrets from others.

 

The Fifth Commandment:
Thou shalt protect family secrets.

 

The Sixth Commandment:
Thou shalt not feel.

 

The Seventh Commandment:
Thou shalt allow your boundaries to be violated, especially by those who “love” you.

 

The Eighth Commandment:
Thou shalt be hyper-vigilant

 

The Ninth Commandment:
Thou shalt not let anyone do anything else for you. Do it all yourself.

 

The Tenth Commandment:
Thou shalt be perfect

 

 

I found these 10 commandments of a dysfunctional family as I was surfing the internet ( sorry but I lost the page ).
I have been on a mission to understand myself and my bad choices , which now affect my loved ones.
By no means do I shift the blame anywhere but on myself. For me it’s kind of like what I have heard Oprah say
so often, ” When you know better you do better “.

 

In my opinion acceptance is not so easy . It’s damn hard to “accept the things that you cannot change “.
It takes effort, commitment, and faith something that an addict lacks. Speaking only for myself once I was able to
accept myself and situation , I wanted to understand it .

 

 

” If I can be an example of being sober , I can be an example of starting over ” Macklemore

 

 

 

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